There is a huge veil of disbelief in the field of energy healing because there are many examples of people who have been exploited, even committed crimes in the name of healing.
The difference between a psychic (a person with real mental gifts) and a psycho (person with mental imbalances) is a very fine line and many times we can identify people who claim some of their qualities as psychic but are actually looking for a place to deceive.
Of course, there are also people who are really charismatic and really liberating, very sensitive to energies and intuitive, who “get information from elsewhere” and are often unjustly accused of lies and fraud. The energy field and the range of possibilities in the invisible are unlimited and we are constantly given new keys.
But how can we distinguish the people-healers though?
Some characteristics are necessary to realize that we can ask someone for help. It is necessary to observe how we are treated, how we feel when we are with the person-healer, to let our filters and our intuition work to understand if we are with someone either trying to deceive or help us.
Usually, the more energy-related the issue becomes, the greater the degree of distrust that accompanies it, but we can always understand whether what is given to us is actually helpful or not.
So let’s look at some of these features:
A real healer:
- Doesn’t create dependency relationships.
Whoever seeks treatment needs to take responsibility for their actions and decisions that a) lead to the problem b) solve the problem.
Dependent relationships are those in which the healer sees themselves in a position of power toward the client who feels vulnerable. In a treatment setting, there is no room for any version of the perpetrator-victim relationship. The patient should never and in no case feel helpless/weak/little and “surrender” to the therapist.
- Doesn’t interfere with free will and doesn’t take responsibility for the actions of the patient.
A person who turns to the healer and seeks guidance for a problem takes responsibility for following the healer’s suggestions and directions. The healer is responsible for giving the right direction or advice but it is up to the patient to decide what to do with this information.
- Doesn’t work through fear or intimidation.
It is obvious that we need living examples that create around them a world of love, trust, security, protection, kindness and forgiveness. Of course, healers also have the right to anger and other heavy emotions because they do not cease to be human beings. The issue is how much, the management, and how often. A healer does not remain in toxic positivity and promotes the recognition and experience of all human emotions in balance.
- Will not go into details that are not needed or promote the provision of information that is not useful in the here and now situation.
Yes, there is everything about past or future lives, parallel dimensions, parallel universes, different timelines, etc. Staying at just one piece of information that satisfies the ego “oh, now I know” and brings us a sense of separation from the whole “I’m something different/special”, is not really helpful.
In the here-and-now life and reality, what can the patient do with this information? The information given to the patient has to do with self-improvement and evolution to the best version of oneself. Not to separate from the whole or to fill the person with illusions.
- Is constantly working against their EGO.
This means that the healer does not let their ego take over at any stage of the treatment.
The more distant the EGO remains in a healer-patient relationship, the clearer the information the patient receives and the more helpful it is. The healer remains to follow the heart, love and inner guidance to the higher good.
- Acts with modesty and respect for the fellow man.
Social positions, social statuses or anything else does not matter when a person is in a position to seek healing treatment or advice from another person. Our commonalities, and even more so our problems, are more than our differences. With this thought comes the same realization that there is no room for dependent relationships.
- Promotes detachment from harmful patterns.
Remaining in the position of the observer, the healer is like trying to clarify with the patient the points of behavior, habits, etc. that lead the person to the problems they want to solve. The healer does not intervene in what they perceive as problems but respects and waits when the patient will be ready to deal with any issue that is ready to arise.
- Doesn’t judge.
No human is able to judge another human for their choices or for whatever situation the person finds themselves in. The healer is there to cultivate acceptance of the situation, to help the patient recognize the lesson they have to take, and from there focus on the solution. The healer protects the patient from getting into dramas or reliving a traumatic experience.
- Observes self-healing.
Each person has their own self-healing mechanisms and through therapies, we ask the body to find a way to deal with what is happening to it. This includes the physical body as well as the psycho-mental. The therapist does not claim that they “heal the patient well” but on the contrary, they realize that through them the channel is created so that the patient can accept, receive and open the mechanisms of self-healing.
- Maintain their interest and guidance but remain non intrusive.
Of course, a healer needs to show interest in the person being referred to them, without trying to make the problem presented as their own. And they do not answer with “yes I know and I’ve been there, let me tell you”. The healer is there 100% for the person who addresses them with interest and observation in detail. The healer will not interfere in forcing a person to do things when they are not yet ready, but will find ways to motivate the person to overcome any difficulties. Guiding the person until they are ready to choose to implement what the healer suggests.
- Recognize their mistake
The healer must be in such a position of discernment and clarity that can recognize if has ever made a mistake and seek to correct it (for example with herbs, if one herb did not initially match to the patient, find another to suggest).
- Recognize their limits
The healer knows when, how and which person to take over or urges the patient to go to another healer. They do not take on patients when they are not properly trained to help, they do not feel confident or connected with them.
- Combines the healing tools appropriately and individually
Through the understanding of the problem presented by the patient, the healer can make the ideal combinations that can lead to faster recovery. If the same healer does not have all the tools needed, suggests other solutions. The only thing that matters is that the person receiving the help is released as quickly and as efficiently as possible from the problem that led them there in the first place.
In summary, I want to emphasize the importance of self-healing, the responsibility that the person needs to take to follow – or not – the suggestions, the space left to the healer to mediate (not to interfere), and how ready each of us is when in the position of the patient. Personally, I believe that each of us always knows better what is and what is not for ourselves.
The reason I wanted to write this text is that I have often been asked how one can choose a healer. But also because of what is available to find, we need to have a good discernment of the information we receive. Especially when it comes to individual healing and sessions on issues that concern.